I am currently editing a friends PhD and while I do feel a little bad that I am making her pages bleed with my bright orange ink I keep finding similar if not the same mistakes. Now I may need to explain that English is not her mother tongue and what she is writing is very interesting, just a few errors that need to be resolved.
Luckily these simple grammar or structure mistakes are mostly quick and easy to fix, unlike the missteps we make in life. Making mistakes is a big part of life and one of the ways we learn, you could say that without the occasional blooper or blunder we’d never better ourselves and reach our goals
But this made me wonder about why we keep doing the same thing over and over again, seemingly never learning from our miscalculations, bad decisions and snafus. We all have that reoccurring issue that creeps on us leaving us in a situation or position we recognise but never change. The outcome leaves us baffled as it is an old friend, an unwanted one but not a stranger, a bedfellow we would rather steal the covers from and kick off the mattress.
So why is it that we can’t learn from some of our biggest mistakes and just let history repeat itself, a record stuck on the same track or a marble stuck on a never-ending mobious curve. The answer seems to lie in our unconscious, instead of waiting for failure to happen we design it ourselves as a situation we know is less frightening and daunting then one we don’t don’t. Basically if we know we are kissing a frog we don’t have to wait for prince Charming to let us down.
And maybe we believe that if we can break the cycle we can finally move on, deceiving ourselves into thinking we have to past some test to qualify for happiness. If we succeed at the impossible what we want is within our reach
But maybe it’s time to take a different road or use the scissors and cut that mobious loop, rewrite our inner monologue, edit our lives and try and be aware of our unconscious. But if we can’t do that at the very least we can recognise our errors and mark it down to experience. As the wonderful journalist and humorist Franklin P. Jones once said:
Experience is that marvelous thing that enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.