After several days of toing and froing, I have finally made the decision of not going to the wedding. It just doesn’t feel right and even though I may lose a friend, I’d rather be true to myself than stick with convention. And yes pride may come before the fall, but allowing people to treat you as they please is not the answer either.
I didn’t make the decision lightly and even wrote an email to the bride trying to explain why I felt I should no longer come and celebrate her big day. I thought, if I gave her all the reasons why I feel the way I do, she may understand and apologize for allowing her bridezilla to take advantage of my niceties.
Sadly that didn’t work out and both my mobile phone and email inbox stayed silent, confirming what I had been thinking all along. So while I hope she has a wonderful time waltzing down the aisle and saying yes to the man she loves I will enjoy a quite day at home, swap my heels for flats and boogie in my living room.
And who knows maybe, when all the the confetti has settled and bridezilla returns back to her normal self, she will find a moment in her busy schedule to answer my mail. However I am not holding my breath and am happy to just be me, maybe a little too proud for my own good but sticking to what I believe to be right.
So, yes my choice may not be the popular one, and maybe most people would decided to give in to convention, but just because everyone does something doesn’t make it right, or at the very least right for you. And just because someone has a reason, no matter how good, to behave badly it still doesn’t mean they should and it definitely doesn’t mean you have to let them get away with it. And if this means I have to cook my own dinner and forgo some dessert it doesn’t really bother me. I am not a fan of weddings and only partake as a gesture of friendship. And since in this case that is no longer desired I think I will enjoy the unexpected time to myself.
Pride is holding your head up when everyone around you has theirs bowed. Courage is what makes you do it. ― Bryce Courtenay