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We all have to work, earn money to pay for things we need, want and sometimes just crave. Sadly work isn’t always fun, and more often than not we get stuck with doing things we really don’t want to. As I was filing away things yesterday, a task I hate but I hate it even more when it’s not done, my mind wandered off back to a time when the question:”what do you want to be” seemed so harmless and everything was possible.
I know it is unusual for a child to know what they want to DO but I always have, however what I want to BE is an entirely different matter. As I was pondering the difference between being and doing I realised that the question asked is all wrong. By asking what we want to BE makes us define who we are by what we do and not by what we feel, think and love. By that measure most of us would be administrators, filer-awayers or listeners-to-long-winded-recordings/waiting-music and emailers. After all most of us spend more time doing anything but what we want to, even in creative jobs you spend lots of time filling in forms, doing paperwork and applying for the next project.
With that said as you grow up, you realise that you have to take the bad with the good and learn to accept that you may only be doing the “fun” bit half of the time if you are lucky. But that still shouldn’t doesn’t mean that that is who we are, just what we do.
If we define who we are by what we do all day long it means our work becomes our life and everything that happens, good and bad, becomes personal. In the worst case scenario it means if we lose our job, we lose our identity and it does make us a little bit one dimensional and boring. After-all do others really want to talk about what we do all day long? Probably not.
A lot of us struggle with freeing ourselves from our daily work, our minds lug the heavy thoughts of how things should be, could be or aren’t done at work, home with us and occupy our thoughts even when we ought to be relaxing and unwinding. Interestingly enough most even quote the famous seven dwarfs song as Heigh-Ho, Heigh-Ho it’s off to work we go when in actual fact it really is: home from work we go
The only way to avoid being what we do is to be and do other things. Hobbies can help, meeting lots of other people, travel and widening our horizons will make us a more rounded, educated us and then of course there is our inner being.
By seeking happiness not wealth, by enjoying laughter not things, by loving, hugging and creating memories to last a lifetime we become the US we want to BE. By nurturing what makes us unique and one of a kind helps us find out who we are and helps us be just that. So maybe the chorus from that famous Disney song: “Heigh-Ho, Heigh-Ho it’s home from work we go“ should remind us that: yes working is important but going home is the song and dance that life is really about.
And that’s why I believe in having a personal vision and mission statement. It transcends our job descriptions and places our identity where it belongs – with us! Thanks for writing this thoughtful piece. 🙂
you are welcome … glad you liked, wasn’t to sure when writing it
It’s a really great post, and it’s basically what one of my self help books says to do.
Concentrate on your values, and what you find important, to be happier, and to find the real you.
Love hon x
well maybe I should write of those too 🙂
Work, for the most of us is just work and it should not be seen as US. It is hard to split the two apart sometimes. Nice post!
I had a conversation with a friend about this who really does not like her job because it involves lots of travel, but it allows her time and money to do the things she wants to do with her family. She is fully with her family when away from work and embraces her time with them.
I think it’s about balance but if you really hate something I think you should seek change … after all who whats to feel hateful 8-10+ hours a day?
So right, J! The song and dance of life….
yes so shall we dance
You are at the TOP of my dance card….
yeah … happy dance
I LOVE this! You are so right. I have been working hard on expandng my focus more. I realized the other day that I am probably busier now than ever, but I am occupying my downtime with things like blogging and training for a triathlon. That is who I want to BE…what I do simply supports that activity. Thanks for a thoughtful post!
you are welcome am so glad it was understandable as I wasn’t sure … all that being and doing was complicated to put into words 🙂
Great post! What I do is large part of who I am and is a part of my personal mission statement. Who signs my paycheck is completely separate. Their definition of what I do and how I should do it can be the struggle. Time to dance!
yes and sing
I like the ‘nurturing what makes us unique’ part – I’m trying to focus on that area of my life.
so make sure you water and feed the little plant till it grows into a beautiful flower
It is so true that for many their chosen ‘work’ defines them…It is thought to be the most important thing in their lives when in reality ‘people’ not things are important..Themselves being one of those ‘people’ …their families and friends others …Diane
I agree .. my aren’t we clever 😉