enjoyment, family, freinds, friendship, letters, love, post, post-cards, smile, stress, trauma, writing
My day started with a lovely surprise, waiting for me on the mat below my letter box sat two unexpected packages and a card. They were sitting there patiently, waiting for me to find and retrieve them.
Like most people, I love receiving letters, parcels, cards anything that isn’t a bill and when I saw the small little pile of goodies a big grin spread across my face, my heart skipped a beat in anticipation and the day was off to a great start.
Most days I don’t have any post at all, or it’s a sad looking white envelope with a coloured logo in the corner signaling me another menacing bill has found its way into my home. Not a joyous occasion and sometimes even a little frightening, traumatic even. But because I can go days on end with the postman ignoring my lonely little letter box I often wonder, when watching American sitcoms, how they always seem to have piles of post ready for them to flick trough. Where do all these letters come from? In the day and age of technology most people write emails and texts, so shouldn’t we be hearing their mobile phones “ping” in irregular intervals, interrupting the conversations and see them checking their “inbox” on their laptops and smartphones?
As much as I enjoy a long email or a text from a friend nothing can beat the feeling of receiving a real letter. One that someone actually took the time to sit down and write, pen and paper in hand, and then even found a moment to wander down to the post and send it. The fact that they bought a stamp is an additional small sign of how they value you.
Sadly writing letters is a dying art-form (along with good spelling and “popping in for a cuppa”) and I admit I am just as guilty as most. However I do take the time every now and then and send friends and family a little envelope of love or a funny card I saw that made me think of them. A little token that out of sight is not out of mind.
I also enjoy the fact that letters take all the stress out of communication, there is no expectations for you to reply at once as everyone knows letters take a few days to travel. Email and texts have an inbuilt stress factor, we are expected to answer straight away, everything is urgent, nothing can wait and so your stress-levels rise with each ping or buzz alerting you to the fact that someone, somewhere is needing an answer RIGHT NOW.
It really is unsurprising that studies have shown that as a positive psychology intervention, gratitude letters “work” 99% of the time. A gratitude letter is a hand-written note you send to someone who you want to thank or even just tell that you love them, it can be a friend, family or even a mentor or teacher. And not only do the recipients enjoy them, feel touched and treasure these letters of love but the person who writes them feels good about themselves as expressing what you feel evokes positive feelings and thoughts.
Of course many of us send postcards from trips away or the occasional greeting card to random occasions, but how many of us actually write more than the few standard sentences? So the next time you think of a friend why not take a pen, pencil or even crayon and write down a few words of love on a piece of paper and send it to them. After all who keeps a box full of old emails under their bed that they re-read and enjoy for many, many years?
And who knows maybe one day those bills, with the traumatic, ever-rising payment demands tucked away inside your letter box may be kept company by a letter filled of love just for you.
If you send me your address, I’ll send you letters.
Oh heike, das ist Klasse das du meine baby Blog liest … hoffe es gefaellt dir, bin noch nichht so ganz sicher was ich von der ganzen Sache halte, aber es scheinen ja doch ein paar leute zu lesen 🙂
Lill and Jill said:
Well said and so true 🙂 When we were still at university and home for holidays, Lill and I would sometimes send outrageous postcards and letters to one another – even though the gesture was really in fact a competition of wit and inappropriateness. It was lovely sending and receiving mail…we’d do it now but living together kind of takes away the surprise…J
Yes but a little note on the door or counter .. hidden in shoes or coat pockets could do the trick 🙂
Lill and Jill said:
We have a whiteboard that we abuse but coats and shoes would be a new twist for sure :-)…J
You are so right…I really need to go get some stationary and send some lovely sentiments. I only get bills in the post so maybe someone will pay it back? Lovely blog!
Thanks so much, new at this so still finding out how-to as I go a long
It was pitch perfect! I look forward to more. 🙂
girl in the hat said:
I do miss letters. I haven’t seen or sent one in ages. Thank you for the beautifully-written reminder.
You are so welcome … and hopefully your letterbox will be in “proper” use again. And thanks for the encouragement, my blog is only a week old so I’m still finding my voice
Sarah Ryan said:
I think you speak for many. I look forward to more ‘thoughts for the day’ but I cannot really feel self righteous!
Sarah of the text
Thanks Sarah … and I will be posting more shortly 🙂
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